These are snippets from Mr Sashi’s session… Please note that the first sentence is the translation from the original Sanskrit text, and the rest present day meanings. I don’t agree with all of this, but certain points do seem illuminating.
- Shower everyday, get a body massage every alternate day, use soap every third day(otherwise your skin will go dry)
- Use talcum powder on in armpits after a bath. Don’t use deodorants - because the close our sweat pores - very bad for our body.
- There 64 such arts to be popular in a gathering
- According to the Kamasutra - a girl child should be fed and taken care of for the first five years, for the next ten years, the child should be disciplined, after 15 years of age, he/she has a distinct unique personality, and let him/her be. The parents should realise that. The girl should wait for three more years for her parents to find her a match. After the 3 years, she’s free to find her own groom
- For marriage, the physical match and mental match are important. But physical match is slightly more important. Doesn’t mean that mental age is not important. A girl of marriageable age should be sent with friends, in carnivals, festivals etc. (i.e. in public) in the traditional dress. But she should be able to handle herself, and control her urges.
- After marriage, 1st 3 nights, the husband and wife should sleep on the ground and do not involve in sexual activities(should follow brahmacharya). Should not eat stimulating food. For a week, they should go to social events together. This if for the couple to get to know each other(if they don’t know each other before marriage). The guy should gain the full confidence of his wife, before they, uh, start…
- To court a girl / after marriage to win confidence methods (warning - highly guy centric) :
- While playing board games, argue with her with something, and hold her hand and protest. (i.e. get close to her, and show your affection)
- While going swimming, go away from her, go underwater and appear suddenly before her. (i.e. impress her - do unique things)
- During events (in public) sit next to her, and touch her for some reason. (i.e. get rid of the shyness)
- When you’re drinking water, take some in the hand and spray it on her face (i.e. break the ice)
- Gossip/small talk with her to gain her faith.
- Don’t expect her to endure pain or leave her house. i.e. She’s wiser and she wants the boy to figure out wiser plans.
- Saying : To gain a women’s love, show affection to her children. If she doesn’t yet have children, then show affection to the children in front of her. To show that you are "father-material".
Mr Shashi made a very thought provoking comment about the so called ‘womens lib’. I need to dwell on it to reach a conclusion. But what he said is this : Indian women have always been respected and given and equal place in the society. The husband tells her "please take care of the laundry" doesn’t mean she should wash them. She can give it to the dhobi. Is this discrimination against women? The women’s lib is the effect of the west on the east. In the west, a women will have to dress and look like a man to gain respect. She dresses in suits and pants to disguise her womanhood, looks like a man, and calls herself liberated. Is this women’s equality? Or is equality the Indian version of respecting women as they are?
Very interesting thought. I don’t think I agree with him totally, I will have to think on it though
There’s a lot more, but unfortunately my battery is down, and I have to stop now. ta ta, and catch you a bit later after charging…
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